Hello Duana, 
I have been such a fan of yours for a very long time, and have been studying your column since lengthy earlier than I ever considered getting pregnant! I actually hope that you simply’re in a position to assist us out with our naming dilemma. My husband and I’ve an (I believe) uncommon downside. We’re pregnant, and are set to have somewhat boy within the subsequent couple of months. We’ve a reputation that we each love, however the issue is that it is a title that is already been taken by a fairly well-known individual. 
The title that we love is Henry. Our final title is Mancini. So… Henry Mancini, well-known composer, of Pink Panther fame. If we had ANY different final title, I believe that it will be a carried out deal – I really like traditional names, I believe that it is a title that would carry our son all through childhood and into maturity, and it simply makes me completely happy. However I’ve a whole lot of issues. I do know that it is loopy, however I am fearful that he’ll really feel that he’ll have rather a lot to reside as much as. And he’ll by no means be on the entrance (few) pages of a Google search. And that folks will suppose that we’re large massive band followers, which we’re not. However, wouldn’t it be useful to have the ability to “disguise” on-line a bit, behind a extra well-known title? I do know that I am overthinking this, however I am unable to assist it! 
We have talked to some family and friends, and I’ve discovered that it is a bit of a generational divide. Older members of the family do not suppose it is a good suggestion, as a result of their minds mechanically go to THE Henry Mancini. Mates my age and youthful (mid-30s) do not know who I am speaking about, and love the title Henry. We have additionally had a couple of folks say that possibly our son will turn into the extra well-known Henry Mancini, by, I do not know, curing most cancers, or inventing time journey. (Would not that be good?!)

Different issues to notice: The center title is unquestionably going to be Bradley, which, I do know does not naturally circulate with Henry, however the extra I say it, the extra I type of prefer it. I am additionally not completely closed off to different names! A number of that we’re additionally contemplating are John, Benjamin, James and Leo, however I am open to recommendations from you! If it is useful, lady names would have been June, Violet, Ruth, Ramona or Pleasure. 
Okay, that is all! Thanks SO a lot for taking the time, and I’m actually wanting ahead to listening to what you suppose!



So I’ve a confession – after I first learn this letter, I used to be about to put in writing a response gently correcting you, due to course, the character is Michael Mancini, clearly. You weren’t paying shut sufficient consideration to Melrose Place…
Or I wasn’t, due to course that’s not who you’re referencing. However truthfully, I believe the purpose stands, as a result of folks have all types of references for names, and even after I realized you had been writing about naming your child Henry Mancini, I needed to hurriedly learn the subsequent line as a result of whereas I knew I’d heard the title, I didn’t know why, or the place – all of which fits to point out that folks aren’t going to mechanically assume an affiliation along with your son and that title.  Not simply because not everybody is aware of him, however as a result of, iconic although Pink Panther and his different works are, there are new composers working every single day, and persons are more likely now to think about John Williams as a grasp rating author, or to speak in regards to the Westworld theme music… you get the concept. 

I really don’t see a means this may harm him, particularly since Mr. Mancini the elder died some 25 years in the past  — I wouldn’t fear about your son’s Googlability in 30 years, each as a result of I believe googling and in any other case wanting folks up goes to be far completely different and extra refined than we are able to dream of proper now, and since sure, he (and possibly another Henry Mancinis) may have made enormous impacts on the world. 

And even when they’re the identical age and usually confused, it doesn’t essentially harm something. For instance, if I reference Rob Thomas, most individuals consider the lead singer of Matchbox 20 – however that hasn’t harm the profession of the ‘different’ Rob Thomas, creator of Veronica Mars/Social gathering Down/iZombie any, aside from sometimes possibly getting emails from one another’s nice aunts, proper? 

I do like your different title decisions, John and Leo specifically, and in the event you had been completely caught for names I’d suggest Marcus or Jonah or Abel – however I don’t see any downside with naming him Henry, and if, in 15 years or so, he does discover it’s an issue, you may suggest he name himself Henry B. Mancini or H.B. Mancini or every other permutation therein, and be as seen or Googlable as he desires to be. 

Write down a couple of completely different permutations, together with with Bradley and B written out – in the event you really feel strongly about it, you may possibly even swap the 2, in order that he’s formally B. Henry Mancini – however I truthfully promise you’re fantastic, and that your Henry will suppose the affiliation is a cool footnote fairly than a digital albatross. 
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